אורח חיים ק״עOrach Chayim 170

Se’if 1א׳

אֵין מְשִׂיחִין בַּסְעֻדָּה, שֶׁמָּא יַקְדִּים קָנֶה לַוֵּשֶׁט; וַאֲפִ' מִי שֶׁנִּתְעַטֵּשׁ (פִּי' שטארנודאר"י בְּלַעַ"ז) בַּסְעֻדָּה, אָסוּר לוֹמַר לוֹ: אָסוּתָא; הָיוּ מְסֻבִּין בַּסְעֻדָּה וְיָצָא אֶחָד מֵהֶם לְהָטִיל מַיִם, נוֹטֵל יָדוֹ אַחַת שֶׁשִּׁפְשֵׁף בָּהּ; וְאֵינוֹ נוֹטֵל אֶלָּא בִּפְנֵי כֻּלָּם, שֶׁלֹּא יַחְשְׁדוּהוּ שֶׁלֹּא נָטַל; הַגָּה: וְאִם לֹא שִׁפְשֵׁף אֵינוֹ נוֹטֵל כְּלָל, אִם לֹא נָגַע בִּמְקוֹם טִנֹּפֶת, אֲבָל אִם עָשָׂה צְרָכָיו, וַדַּאי צָרִיךְ נְטִילָה (הַגָּהוֹת אֲשֵׁרִי פ"ב דִּבְרָכוֹת). וְהָנֵי מִילֵי לִשְׁתּוֹת, אֲבָל לֶאֱכֹל נוֹטֵל אֲפִלּוּ בַּחוּץ, דְּמֵידַע יָדְעֵי דַּאֲנִינָא (פי' שֶׁמִּתְטָרֶפֶת וּמִתְבַּלְבֶּלֶת דַּעְתּוֹ) דַּעְתֵּיהּ וְלֹא אָכַל בְּלֹא נְטִילָה. וְאִם דִּבֵּר עִם חֲבֵרוֹ וְהִפְלִיג, נוֹטֵל שְׁתֵּי יָדָיו כֵּיוָן שֶׁהִסִיחַ דַּעְתּוֹ. הַגָּה: וְהָא דְּבָעֵינָן נְטִילָה לִשְׁתִיָּה הַיְנוּ בְּתוֹךְ הַסְּעֻדָּה, דְּחַיְשִׁינָן שֶׁמָּא יֹאכַל, אֲבָל בְּלָאו הָכֵי אֵין צָרִיךְ נְטִילָה לִשְׁתִיָּה ( (הר"י סוֹף פֶּרֶק אֵלּוּ דְּבָרִים וְרַשִׁ"י פֶּרֶק אָמַר לָהֶם הַמְמֻנֶּה).

Rules of proper conduct that a person should observe during a meal. Containing 22 paragraphs: One should not converse during a meal, lest the windpipe precede the esophagus (i.e., food goes down the wrong way). Even if someone sneezes during a meal, it is forbidden to say "health!" to him. If people were reclining at a meal and one of them went out to urinate, he washes one hand that he wiped with, and he only washes in front of everyone so they do not suspect him of not having washed. Rema: And if he did not wipe, he does not wash at all unless he touched a soiled place. But if he relieved himself, he certainly requires washing. This applies to drinking, but for eating he washes even outside [their view], for they know that his mind is troubled (meaning that he is anxious and confused) and he will not eat without washing. And if he spoke with his companion and became engrossed [in conversation], he washes both his hands since he became distracted. Rema: And this requirement of washing for drinking applies only in the middle of the meal, for we are concerned that perhaps he will eat. But otherwise, washing is not required for drinking.

Se’if 2ב׳

שְׁנַיִם מַמְתִּינִים זֶה אֶת זֶה בַּקְּעָרָה, שֶׁכְשֶׁהָאֶחָד מְסַלֵּק יָדוֹ מִן הַקְּעָרָה לִשְׁתּוֹת, חֲבֵרוֹ מַפְסִיק מִלֶּאֱכֹל עַד שֶׁיִּגְמֹר הַשְּׁתִיָּה; אֲבָל אִם הֵם שְׁלֹשָׁה, אֵין הַשְּׁנַיִם פּוֹסְקִין בִּשְׁבִיל הָאֶחָד.

Two [people dining together] wait for each other at the bowl — when one removes his hand from the bowl to drink, his companion stops eating until he finishes drinking. But if there are three, the [other] two do not stop for the one [who drinks].

Se’if 3ג׳

מְשַׁיְּרִין פֵּאָה בַּקְּעָרָה, כָּל אֶחָד מֵהָאוֹכְלִים, וְהוּא מַאֲכַל הַשַּׁמָּשׁ; אֲבָל כְּשֶׁהַשַּׁמָּשׁ מְעָרֶה מִן הָאִלְפָּס לְתוֹךְ הַקְּעָרָה אֵין דֶּרֶךְ לְהַנִּיחַ בָּאִלְפָּס כְּלוּם לְצָרְכּוֹ.

Each of the diners leaves a corner [of food] in the bowl, which is food for the servant. But when the servant pours from the serving pot into the bowl, it is not the practice to leave anything in the pot for his needs.