אבן העזר פ״טEven HaEzer 89

Se’if 1א׳

מֵתָה הָאִשָּׁה בְּחַיֵּי הַבַּעַל, חַיָּב לְקָבְרָהּ וְלִטַּפֵּל בְּכָל צָרְכֵי קְבוּרָתָהּ, וּבִכְלַל זֶה הָאֶבֶן שֶׁנּוֹתְנִים עַל הַקֶּבֶר. וְכֵן חַיָּב לַעֲשׂוֹת לָהּ מִסְפֵּד וְקִינִים, כְּדֶרֶךְ כָּל הַמְּדִינָה. וְאִם דַּרְכָּם לְהַסְפִּיד בַּחֲלִילִין, לֹא יִפְחֹת מִשְּׁנֵי חֲלִילִין וּמְקוֹנְנוֹת, אֲפִלּוּ עָנִי שֶׁבְּיִשְׂרָאֵל; וְאִם הָיָה עָשִׁיר, הַכֹּל לְפִי כְּבוֹדוֹ. וְאִם הָיָה כְּבוֹדָהּ יוֹתֵר מִכְּבוֹדוֹ, קוֹבְרִים אוֹתָהּ לְפִי כְּבוֹדָהּ, שֶׁעוֹלָה עִמּוֹ וְאֵינָהּ יוֹרֶדֶת:

If a woman died in the lifetime of her husband, he is required to bury her and to deal with all the needs of her burial, including the gravestone. Similarly, he must arrange a eulogy and hire professional weepers according to the custom of the state. If their custom is to mourn with flutes, he shall not make do with less than two flutes and professional weepers, even if he is among the poor of Israel. If he was rich, it [burial arrangements] shall be according to his honor. If her honor was greater than his, she must be buried according to her honor, for she rises [in honor] with him, but does not descend.

Se’if 2ב׳

לֹא רָצָה לְקָבְרָהּ, וְעָמַד אַחֵר וְקָבְרָהּ, בֵּית דִּין מוֹצִיאִין מִבַּעֲלָהּ וְנוֹתְנִין לְזֶה:

If he [the husband] did not want to bury her, and another arose and buried her, the court shall take payment from her husband and give it to the other.

Se’if 3ג׳

הָיָה בַּעֲלָהּ בִּמְדִינָה אַחֶרֶת, בֵּית דִּין יוֹרְדִין לִנְכָסָיו וּמוֹכְרִין בְּלֹא הַכְרָזָה, וְקוֹבְרִין אוֹתָהּ לְפִי מָמוֹן הַבַּעַל וּלְפִי כְּבוֹדוֹ, אוֹ לְפִי כְּבוֹדָהּ:

If her husband was in a different country, court shall take payment from his property and sell [as needed to raise money, even] without public announcement, and bury her according to his wealth and honor, or according to her honor [whichever is greater].