אבן העזר פ״בEven HaEzer 82

Siman 82 of 178 in Even HaEzer — 8 se'ifim

Se’if 1א׳

נָדְרָה שֶׁלֹּא לְהֵנִיק אֶת בְּנָהּ, כּוֹפִין אוֹתָהּ וּמֵינִיקָתוֹ עַד שֶׁיִּהְיֶה בֶּן עֶשְׂרִים וְאַרְבָּעָה חֹדֶשׁ, אֶחָד הַזָּכָר וְאֶחָד הַנְּקֵבָה:

If a woman vowed that she would not nurse her child, we compel her and she nurses the child until [the baby] is 24 months old, whether [the baby] is male or female.

Se’if 2ב׳

הִיא אוֹמֶרֶת: אֲנִי אָנִיק אֶת בְּנִי, וְהוּא אֵינוֹ רוֹצֶה, שׁוֹמְעִין לָהּ:

If she says: "I am breastfeeding my child, but [the husband] does not want [her to breastfeed]," we listen to her.

Se’if 3ג׳

הָיְתָה עֲנִיָּה שֶׁחַיֶּבֶת לְהֵנִיק אֶת בְּנָהּ, וְהוּא עָשִׁיר שֶׁרָאוּי לוֹ שֶׁלֹּא תֵּנִיק אִשְׁתּוֹ, אִם רָצְתָה, שׂוֹכֵר מֵינִיקָה אוֹ קוֹנֶה שִׁפְחָה, מִפְּנֵי שֶׁעוֹלָה עִמּוֹ וְאֵינָהּ יוֹרֶדֶת:

If she was so poor that she was required to breastfeed her child, and [her husband] was rich enough that he considered it appropriate for his wife not to breastfeed: if she is willing, he hires a wet nurse or buys a maidservant, since she should be elevated [in status] with him and she should not bring him down [in status].

Se’if 5ה׳

הָאִשָּׁה שֶׁנִּתְגָּרְשָׁה, אֵין כּוֹפִין אוֹתָהּ לְהֵנִיק אֶת בְּנָהּ, אֶלָּא אִם רָצְתָה, נוֹתֵן לָהּ שְׂכָרָהּ וּמֵינִיקָתוֹ; וְאִם לֹא רָצְתָה, נוֹתֶנֶת לוֹ אֶת בְּנוֹ וְהוּא מְטָפֵּל בּוֹ. בַּמֶּה דְבָרִים אֲמוּרִים, שֶׁלֹּא הֵנִיקָה אוֹתוֹ עַד שֶׁהִכִּירָהּ, אֲבָל אִם הִכִּירָהּ וְאֵינוֹ רוֹצֶה לִינֹק מֵאַחֶרֶת (טוּר), אֲפִלּוּ הוּא סוּמָא, אֵין מַפְרִישִׁין אוֹתוֹ, מִפְּנֵי סַכָּנַת הַוָּלָד, אֶלָּא כּוֹפִין אוֹתָהּ וּמֵינִיקָתוֹ עַד עֶשְׂרִים וְאַרְבָּעָה חֹדֶשׁ. הַגָּה: וְהוּא נוֹתֵן לָהּ שְׂכַר הֲנָקָה (טוּר). וְיֵשׁ אוֹמְרִים דַּאֲפִלּוּ אִשָּׁה אַחֶרֶת, שֶׁהֵנִיקָה וָלָד עַד שֶׁמַּכִּירָהּ, כּוֹפִין אוֹתָהּ וּמֵינִיקָתוֹ בְּשָׂכָר, מִפְּנֵי סַכָּנַת הַוָּלָד (הַגָּהוֹת אַלְפָסִי פֶּרֶק אַף עַל פִּי). וְיֵשׁ אוֹמְרִים הָא דִּגְרוּשָׁה אֵינָהּ מְחֻיֶּבֶת לְהֵנִיק אִם אֵינוֹ מַכִּירָהּ, הַיְנוּ כְּשֶׁמּוֹצֵא מֵינֶקֶת אַחֶרֶת וְיֵשׁ לוֹ לְהַשְׂכִּיר, אֲבָל אִם אֵין לוֹ, כּוֹפֶה אוֹתָהּ וּמֵינִיקָתוֹ (ר"י); אֲבָל אִם הִשְׂכִּירָה כְּבָר עַצְמָהּ לַאֲחֵרִים, וְאוֹתוֹ וָלָד מַכִּירָהּ, אֵין דּוֹחִין אוֹתוֹ וָלָד מִפְּנֵי בְּנָהּ, אֶלָּא בֵּית דִּין מַשְׂכִּירִין לִבְנָהּ מֵינִיקָה אַחֶרֶת (הָרֹא"שׁ כְּלָל י"ז):

When a woman is divorced, we do not compel her to breastfeed her child, unless she wants to, in which case [her husband] pays her hire [as a wet nurse] and she breastfeeds [the baby]; and if she does not want to, she gives him his child and he raises [the baby]. Which situations are we talking about? That she may [choose to] not breastfeed it until it [is old enough that it] recognizes her, but if it recognizes her (Rem"a: and does not want to breastfeed from another), even if it is blind, we do not separate it [from her], because of danger to the infant, but rather we compel her and she breastfeeds it until it is 24 months old. Rem"a: And he pays her the hire of breastfeeding. And some say that even another woman, if she breastfeeds a baby until it [is old enough that it] recognizes her, we compel her [to continue] and she nurses it for hire, because of danger to the infant. And some say that this situation where a divorcee is not obligated to breastfeed if [the baby] does not recognize her, this is when another wet nurse is brought in and is available for hire, but if [the husband] does not have one, he compels her and she breastfeeds [the baby]; but if [the wife] already hired herself out to others [as a wet nurse], and that infant recognizes her, we do not force that infant [to stop breastfeeding from her] on account of her own child, rather the court hires a different wet nurse for her child.

…and 3 more se'ifim in this siman.

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Shulchan Aruch, Even HaEzer — Torat Emet 357 edition, via Sefaria — public domain

English: Sefaria Community Translation — CC0