בראשית רבה י״זBereshit Rabbah 17

Section 1א׳

וַיֹּאמֶר ה' אֱלֹהִים לֹא טוֹב הֱיוֹת (בראשית ב, יח), תְּנֵינַן בַּעֲשָׂרָה מַאֲמָרוֹת נִבְרָא הָעוֹלָם, וְאֵלּוּ הֵן (בראשית א, א): בְּרֵאשִׁית (בראשית א, ב): וְרוּחַ אֱלֹהִים מְרַחֶפֶת (בראשית א, ג): וַיֹּאמֶר אֱלֹהִים יְהִי אוֹר (בראשית א, ו): וַיֹּאמֶר אֱלֹהִים יְהִי רָקִיעַ (בראשית א, ט): וַיֹּאמֶר אֱלֹהִים יִקָּווּ הַמַּיִם (בראשית א, יא): וַיֹּאמֶר אֱלֹהִים תַּדְּשֵׁא הָאָרֶץ (בראשית א, יד): וַיֹּאמֶר אֱלֹהִים יְהִי מְאֹרֹת (בראשית א, כ): וַיֹּאמֶר אֱלֹהִים יִשְׁרְצוּ הַמַּיִם (בראשית א, כד): וַיֹּאמֶר אֱלֹהִים תּוֹצֵא הָאָרֶץ (בראשית א, כו): וַיֹּאמֶר אֱלֹהִים נַעֲשֶׂה אָדָם. מְנַחֵם בַּר יוֹסֵי מוֹצִיא וְרוּחַ אֱלֹהִים מְרַחֶפֶת, וּמֵבִיא וַיֹּאמֶר ה' אֱלֹהִים לֹא טוֹב הֱיוֹת הָאָדָם. אָמַר רַבִּי יַעֲקֹב בֶּן קוּרְשָׁאי מַאֲמָר נִתַּן לָרוּחַ בִּפְנֵי עַצְמָהּ.

“The Lord God said: It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make a helper for him alongside him” (Genesis 2:18). “The Lord God said: It is not good that [the man] should be” – we learned: The world was created with ten [divine] utterances. These are: “In the beginning [God created the heavens and the earth]” (Genesis 1:1); “the wind of God hovered [over the surface of the water]” (Genesis 1:2); “God said: Let there be light” (Genesis 1:3); “God said: Let there be a firmament” (Genesis 1:6); “God said: “Let the water be gathered” (Genesis 1:9). “God said: Let the earth sprout [grass]” (Genesis 1:11). “God said: Let there be lights” (Genesis 1:14). “God said: Let the water swarm” (Genesis 1:20). “God said: “Let the earth produce” (Genesis 1:24). “God said: Let us make man” (Genesis 1:26). Menaḥem bar Yosei removes: “The wind of God hovered,” and inserts: “The Lord God said: It is not good that the man should be.” Rabbi Yaakov ben Kurshai said: A special utterance was devoted specifically to the wind.

Section 2ב׳

לֹא טוֹב, תָּנֵי רַבִּי יַעֲקֹב כָּל שֶׁאֵין לוֹ אִשָּׁה, שָׁרוּי בְּלֹא טוֹבָה בְּלֹא עֵזֶר בְּלֹא שִׂמְחָה בְּלֹא בְּרָכָה בְּלֹא כַּפָּרָה. בְּלֹא טוֹבָה, לֹא טוֹב הֱיוֹת הָאָדָם לְבַדּוֹ. בְּלֹא עֵזֶר, אֶעֱשֶׂה לוֹ עֵזֶר כְּנֶגְדּוֹ. בְּלֹא שִׂמְחָה, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (דברים יד, כו): וְשָׂמַחְתָּ אַתָּה וּבֵיתֶךָ. בְּלֹא כַפָּרָה, (ויקרא טז, יא): וְכִפֶּר בַּעֲדוֹ וּבְעַד בֵּיתוֹ. בְּלֹא בְרָכָה (יחזקאל מד, ל): לְהָנִיחַ בְּרָכָה אֶל בֵּיתֶךָ. רַבִּי סִימוֹן בְּשֵׁם רַבִּי. יְהוֹשֻׁעַ בֶּן לֵוִי אָמַר אַף בְּלֹא שָׁלוֹם, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (שמואל א כה, ו): וְאַתָּה שָׁלוֹם וּבֵיתְךָ שָׁלוֹם. רַבִּי יְהוֹשֻׁעַ דְּסִכְנִין בְּשֵׁם רַבִּי לֵוִי אָמַר אַף בְּלֹא חַיִּים, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (קהלת ט, ט): רְאֵה חַיִּים עִם אִשָּׁה אֲשֶׁר אָהַבְתָּ. רַבִּי חִיָּא בַּר גַּמְדָא אָמַר אַף אֵינוֹ אָדָם שָׁלֵם, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (בראשית ה, ב): וַיְבָרֶךְ אֹתָם וַיִּקְרָא אֶת שְׁמָם אָדָם, שְׁנֵיהֶם כְּאֶחָד קְרוּיִים אָדָם. וְיֵשׁ אוֹמְרִים אַף מְמַעֵט אֶת הַדְּמוּת, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (בראשית ט, ו): כִּי בְּצֶלֶם אֱלֹהִים עָשָׂה אֶת הָאָדָם, מַה כְּתִיב אַחֲרָיו (בראשית ט, ז): וְאַתֶּם פְּרוּ וּרְבוּ.

“It is not good” – Rabbi Yaakov taught: Anyone who does not have a wife is without good, without help, without joy, without blessing, without atonement. Without good – “it is not good that the man should be alone.” Without help – “I will make a helper for him alongside him.” Without joy – as it is stated: “You shall rejoice, you and your household” (Deuteronomy 14:26). Without atonement – “he shall atone for himself and for his household” (Leviticus 16:11). Without blessing – “to lay a blessing upon your house” (Ezekiel 44:30). Rabbi Simon said in the name of Rabbi Yehoshua ben Levi: He is also without peace, as it is stated: “You shall be in peace, and your household shall be in peace” (I Samuel 25:6). Rabbi Yehoshua of Sikhnin said in the name of Rabbi Levi: He is also without life, as it is stated: “Appreciate life with a woman whom you love” (Ecclesiastes 9:9). Rabbi Ḥiyya bar Gamda said: He is not even a complete man, as it is stated: “He blessed them, and He called their name Man, on the day they were created” (Genesis 5:2) – when both of them are together they are called “Man.” Some say he even diminishes the [divine] image, as it is stated: “As He made man in the image of God” (Genesis 9:6). What is written thereafter? “And you, be fruitful, and multiply” (Genesis 9:7).

Section 3ג׳

אֶעֱשֶׂה לוֹ עֵזֶר כְּנֶגְדּוֹ, אִם זָכָה עֵזֶר, וְאִם לָאו כְּנֶגְדּוֹ. אָמַר רַבִּי יְהוֹשֻׁעַ בַּר נְחֶמְיָה אִם זָכָה, כְּאִשְׁתּוֹ שֶׁל רַבִּי חֲנִינָא בַּר חֲכִינָאי, וְאִם לָאו, כְּאִשְׁתּוֹ שֶׁל רַבִּי יוֹסֵי הַגְּלִילִי. רַבִּי יוֹסֵי הֲוָה לֵיהּ אִנְתְּתָא בִּישָׁא, וַהֲוַת בְּרַתָּא דַּאֲחָתֵיהּ, וַהֲוַת בָּזֵית לֵיהּ קֳדָם תַּלְמִידוֹי, אָמְרִין תַּלְמִידָיו שַׁבְקָא לַהֲדָא אִנְתְּתָא בִּישָׁא דְּלֵיתָא מְיַקְרָךְ. אֲמַר לְהוֹן פּוּרְנָא רַב עָלַי, לֵית בְּיָדִי מָה אֶשְׁבּוֹק לָהּ. חַד זְמַן הֲווֹן יָתְבִין פָּשְׁטִין הוּא וְרַבִּי אֶלְעָזָר בֶּן עֲזַרְיָה, דְּמִן חַסְלִין אֲמַר לֵיהּ מַשְׁגַּח רַבִּי וַאֲנַן סָלְקִין בְּבֵיתָא, אֲמַר לֵיהּ אִין, סָלֵיק, כִּי סְלֵיק אַמַּכַת לְאַפָּהּ וּנְפַקַת לָהּ, צָפָה בְּהַהִיא קְדֵרָה, אֲמַר לָהּ אִית בְּהַהִיא קְדֵרָה כְּלוּם, אֲמַרָה לֵיהּ אִית פַּרְפְּרָיִין, אָזַל גַּלֵּיתָהּ וְאַשְׁכַּח פַּרְגָיִין, יָדַע רַבִּי אֶלְעָזָר בֶּן עֲזַרְיָה מַה הוּא שָׁמַע, יָתְבוּן לְהוֹן אָכְלִין, אֲמַר לֵיהּ רַבִּי לָא אֲמַרַת אֶלָּא פַּרְפְּרָיִין וְהָא אַשְׁכַּחְנַן בְּגַוָּהּ פַּרְגָיִין, אֲמַר לֵיהּ מַעֲשֶׂה נִסִּים הֵן. מִן דְּחַסְלִין אֲמַר לֵיהּ רַבִּי שְׁבוֹקָא הַהִיא אִנְתְּתָא מִינָךְ, דְּלֵית הִיא עָבְדָא לִיקְרָתָךְ. אֲמַר לֵיהּ פּוּרְנָא רַב עָלַי וְלֵית בִּי מָה אֶשְׁבּוֹק לָהּ. אֲמַר לֵיהּ אֲנַן יַהֲבִינַן לָהּ פּוּרְנָא וְשַׁבְקֵית מִינָךְ. עֲבַדּוּן לֵיהּ כֵּן פְּסַק לָהּ פּוּרְנָא וּשְׁבַק יָתָהּ מִינֵיהּ וְאַסְבוּן יָתֵיהּ אִתְּתָא אָחֳרָא טָבָא מִינַהּ, גַּרְמוּן חוֹבִין דְּהַהִיא אִתְּתָא וַאֲזַלַּת וְאִתְנַסְבֵית לְסַנְטְרִין דְּקַרְתָּא, לְבָתַר יוֹמִין אֲתוֹן יִסּוּרִין עָלָיו וְאִתְעַוֵּר, וַהֲוַת צָיְירַת בִּיְדֵיהּ וּמְחַזְרָא לֵיהּ עַל שְׁקָקַיָא דְּקַרְתָּא, כֵּיוָן דַּהֲוַת מַטְיָא בִּשְׁקָקַיָא דְּרַבִּי יוֹסֵי הַגְּלִילִי הֲוַת קָיְימָא לָהּ וְחָזְרָה לַאֲחוֹרָהּ, מִן דַּהֲוָה הַהוּא גַבְרָא חַכִּים קַרְתָּא אֲמַר לָהּ לָמָּה אַתְּ לֹא מוֹבַלְתְּ לִי לִשְׁכוּנְתֵיהּ דְּרַבִּי יוֹסֵי הַגְּלִילִי, דַּאֲנָא שָׁמַע דְּהַהוּא עָבִיד מִצְוָה. אֲמַרַת לֵיהּ מַשְׁבַּקְתֵּיהּ אֲנָא, וְלֵית בִּי דְּלֶחֱמֵי סְבַר אַפּוֹהִי. חַד זְמַן אֲתוֹן קָרוֹן בִּשְׁכוּנְתֵיהּ דְּרַבִּי יוֹסֵי, אַרְגֵּישׁ בַּהּ יוֹם קֳדָמוֹי, וְיוֹם תִּנְיָן וּשְׁרֵי מָחֵי לָהּ, וַאֲזֵיל קָלְהוֹן וַהֲווֹן מִתְבַּזִּין בְּכָל קַרְתָּא, אוֹדִיק רַבִּי יוֹסֵי לְקָלְהוֹן וַחֲמְהוֹן מִתְבַּזִּין בְּגוֹ שׁוּקָא, אֲמַר לֵיהּ אַתְּ מָחֵי לָהּ, אֲמַר לֵיהּ כָּל יוֹם הִיא מוֹבְדָה פַּרְנָסָתֵיהּ דְּהָדֵין שְׁקָקַיָּה מִנִּי, כֵּיוָן דִּשְׁמַע רַבִּי יוֹסֵי כֵּן נְסַבֵיהוֹן וִיהֵיב יָתְהוֹן בְּחָדָא בֵּיתָא מִן דִּידֵיהּ, וַהֲוָה מְפַרְנֵס יָתְהוֹן כָּל יוֹמֵי חַיֵּיהוֹן, עַל שֵׁם (ישעיה נח, ז): וּמִבְּשָׂרְךָ לֹא תִתְעַלָּם.

“I will make a helper for him alongside him [kenegdo]” – if one merits, she [his wife] is a helper, but if not, she is against him [kenegdo]. Rabbi Yehoshua bar Neḥemya said: If he merits, [his wife will be] like the wife of Rabbi Ḥanina bar Ḥakhinai, but if not, she will be like the wife of Rabbi Yosei the HaGelili. The wife of Rabbi Yosei [HaGelili] was malicious, though she was his sister’s daughter. She would humiliate him in the presence of his students. His students said: Be rid of that malicious wife who does not respect you. He said to them: Her marriage contract is too large for me, and I do not have enough [money] to be rid of her. One time he and Rabbi Elazar ben Azarya were sitting and studying. When they finished, he [Rabbi Yosei] said to him: ‘Rabbi, accept my suggestion, and let us go up to my house [to eat].’ He said to him: ‘Yes, let us go up.’ When he went up, she looked downward and walked out. He saw a pot and said to her: ‘Is there anything in that pot?’ She said to him: ‘There is only relish.’ He went and opened it and found pieces of chicken. Rabbi Elazar ben Azarya realized what he had heard. They sat and ate. He said to him: ‘Rabbi, did she not say there was only relish? Yet we found pieces of chicken in it.’ He said to him: ‘They [came about] through a miraculous act.’ When they finished, he said to him: ‘Rabbi, be rid of that wife, because she does not act respectfully towards you.’ He said to him: ‘Her marriage contract is too large for me, and I do not have enough [money] to be rid of her.’ He said: ‘We will pay her the marriage contract, and you can be rid of her.’ They did this for him, and he was able to pay her marriage contract and be rid of her. He married a different wife, who was better than her. The sins of that women brought about that she went and married the city watchman. Some time later, he experienced suffering and became blind. She would hold his hand and take him around the city streets. When she reached the street of Rabbi Yosei HaGelili, she stopped and turned back. Because that man knew well the [layout of the] city, he said to her: ‘Why did you not take me to the neighborhood of Rabbi Yosei HaGelili, of whom I heard that he gives charity?’ She said to him: ‘I am his divorcée, and I cannot bear to see his face.’ One time, they came and called in Rabbi Yosei’s neighborhood. He realized what she was doing on the first day and the second day, and then he began to hit her. Their voices were loud and audible, and they became disgraced throughout the city. Rabbi Yosei looked in the direction of their voices, and he saw them becoming disgraced in the streets. He said to him: ‘Why are you hitting her?’ He said to him: ‘Every day she causes me to lose the support [that I could take in] from this street.’ When Rabbi Yosei heard this, he took them and put them up in a house that he owned and supported them all the days of their lives, due to [the verse]: “Do not disregard your own flesh” (Isaiah 58:7).