יורה דעה ת״גYoreh De'ah 403

Se’if 1א׳

הַמְלַקֵט עַצְמוֹת אָבִיו, אוֹ שֶׁל שְׁאָר קְרוֹבִים שֶׁמִּתְאַבְּלִים עֲלֵיהֶם, מִתְאַבֵּל עֲלֵיהֶם כָּל הַיּוֹם כֻּלוֹ, בְּכָל הַדְּבָרִים הַנּוֹהֲגִים בְּאָבֵל, בִּכְפִיַּת הַמִּטָּה וַעֲטִיפַת הָרֹאשׁ וּנְעִילַת הַסַנְדָּל וְתַשְׁמִישׁ הַמִּטָּה וּרְחִיצָה וְסִיכָה; וְלָעֶרֶב אֵין מִתְאַבֵּל עֲלֵיהֶם, אֲפִלוּ צְרוּרִים לוֹ בִּסְדִינוֹ. הָיָה עוֹמֵד וּמְלַקֵט, וְחָשְׁכָה לוֹ, מֻתָּר בַּיּוֹם שֶׁלְאַחֲרָיו. לְפִיכָךְ אֵין מְלַקְטִין אוֹתָם סָמוּךְ לַחֲשֵׁכָה, כְּדֵי שֶׁלֹּא יִהְיֶה נִמְצָא שֶׁלֹּא הִתְאַבֵּל עַל לִקוּט עַצְמוֹת אָבִיו. וְאֵין אֲנִינוּת בְּלִקּוּט עֲצָמוֹת, רַק חָל עָלָיו אֲבֵלוּת מִיָּד (טוּר בְּשֵׁם הָרֹא"שׁ).

One who collects his father's [or his mother's] bones2M.K. 8a. or [the bones] of other near-of-kin for whom one observes mourning rites,3N in T.H. Thus also Asheri M.K. I, derived from Sem(H). XII, 7 in accord with R. Akiba. mourns for them all day4M.K. ibid. in [that he observes] all matters which apply to a mourner, [viz.,] by over-turning the couch, muffling the head, [by debarring himself from] wearing shoes, [from] using the conjugal couch, [from] bathing and annointing himself.5N in T.H.; Asheri and R. Yeruḥam. However, in the evening one does not observe mouring rites for them, even if he had them by him tied up in a sheet.6M.K. ibid., Tosaf. s.v. ולערב. Rashi (ibid.) explains that this means even if he himself did not collect the bones and did not see them, mourning still obtains for one day. [If] he was standing and collecting [the bones] and night fell, he is permitted [the aforementioned matters which are forbidden to a mourner], on the following day. Therefore, one should not collect them close to nightfall so that it should not turn out that he observed no mourning rites for the collection of his father's [or mother's] bones.7Sem(H). XII, 4. Since only the parents are mentioned, it follows that in the case of other near-of-kin, one may collect bones close to nightfall — A.H. Aninuth8 Glos. and supra § 34 does not [take effect] in [the case of] a collection of bones [for final burial];9He is therefore, permitted to eat meat and drink wine which is forbidden to an Onen (v. supra § 341), but mourning becomes effective forthwith, even prior to the final burial of the collected bones. supra § 375, 7. A Kohen is forbidden to collect the bones of his father lest the corpse is defective, in which case he is for-bidden to defile himself for him (v. supra § 373, 9) — ShaK, Derisha. only mourning rites become effective forthwith.10Tur on the authority of Asheri — G.

Se’if 2ב׳

כָּל שֶׁקוֹרֵעַ עָלָיו בִּשְׁעַת מִיתָתוֹ, קוֹרֵעַ עָלָיו בִּשְׁעַת לִקוּט עֲצָמוֹת. וְכָל שֶׁאֵינוֹ מִתְאַחֶה בִּשְׁעַת מִיתָתוֹ, אֵינוֹ מִתְאַחֶה בִּשְׁעַת לִקוּט עֲצָמוֹת.

Whosoever rends [garments] for him at the time of his death, rends [garments] for him at the time of [his] bone-collection; and every [rent] which is not resewn at the time of his death, is not resewn at the time of [his] bone-collection.11Sem(H). XII, 3 cited by N and Asheri.

Se’if 3ג׳

עֲצָמוֹת, אֵין עוֹמְדִין עֲלֵיהֶם בְּשׁוּרָה, אֲבָל אוֹמְרִים עֲלֵיהֶם תַּנְחוּמִין לְעַצְמָם. וְאֵין מַבְרִין עֲלֵיהֶם בְּחֶבֶר עִיר, אֲבָל מַבְרִין עֲלֵיהֶם בְּבֵיתוֹ. וְאֵין אוֹמְרִים עֲלֵיהֶם קִינָה וּנְהִי, אֲבָל אוֹמְרִים עֲלֵיהֶם קִלוּסִין. דְּהַיְנוּ שִׁבְחוֹ שֶׁל מֵת, וּמְשַׁבְּחִין לְהקב"ה שֶׁמֵּמִית וּמְחַיֶּה (בַּטּוּר תִּמְצָא מְבֹאָר).

[With respect to] bones [which are collected for final burial], one does not stand for them in the line [of comforters], but one says words of comfort on their own account.12e., one tells the praise of the departed in accordance with their deeds. One does not provide the mourner's meal for them13e., on account of the collected bones. in the town-group,14e., publicly. For the meaning of חבר עיר v. supra § 355 and notes. Sem. has, ‘One does not go up for them etc.’ but one provides the mourner's meal for them in his15Sem(H). has, ‘in the mourner’s house.’ house.16Sem(H). XII, 4; N in T.H.; Asheri. Cf. also Sem(H). XI, 2; ibid. Int. II, 11, pp. 46-47. One does not recite for them lamentations and elegies, but one says for them [words of] praise,17Y.M.K. I, 5(80d) ; Y.Pes. VIII, 7(36b). Thus also Yad, Ebel XII, 6-8; Alfasi; N in T.H.; Asheri. [i.e.,] the praise of the departed [whose bones were collected] and one praises the Lord who puts to death and makes alive.18You will find this explained in the Tur — G.