אבן העזר ע״וEven HaEzer 76

Siman 76 of 178 in Even HaEzer — 13 se'ifim

Se’if 1א׳

עוֹנָתָהּ כֵּיצַד, כָּל אִישׁ חַיָּב בְּעוֹנָה כְּפִי כֹּחוֹ וּכְפִי מְלַאכְתּוֹ. וְהַטַּיָּלִים, עוֹנָתָם בְּכָל לַיְלָה:

How does one fulfill his conjugal obligation? Every man is obligated to perform his marital duties according to his strength and according to his profession. Peddlers are obligated every night.

Se’if 2ב׳

הַפּוֹעֲלִים, אִם הָיְתָה מְלַאכְתָּם בָּעִיר, פַּעֲמַיִם בַּשַּׁבָּת; וְאִם הָיְתָה מְלַאכְתָּם בְּעִיר אַחֶרֶת, פַּעַם אַחַת בַּשַּׁבָּת. וְיֵשׁ אוֹמְרִים דְּאִם אֵינָם לָנִין כָּל לַיְלָה בְּבֵיתָם, עוֹנָתָן לִשְׁמוֹנָה יָמִים (טוּר וְתוֹסָפוֹת בְּשֵׁם ר"י בַּר בָּרוּךְ). הַחַמָּרִים, פַּעַם אַחַת בַּשַּׁבָּת. הַגַּמָּלִים, אַחַת לִשְׁלשִׁים יוֹם. הַמַּלָּחִים, אַחַת לְשִׁשָּׁה חֳדָשִׁים. תַּלְמִידֵי חֲכָמִים, עוֹנָתָם פַּעַם אַחַת בַּשַּׁבָּת; וְדֶרֶךְ תַּלְמִידֵי חֲכָמִים לְשַׁמֵּשׁ מִטָּתָן מִלֵּילֵי שַׁבָּת לְלֵילֵי שַׁבָּת:

The laborers, if their work was in the city, twice a week; and if their work was in a different city, once a week. And there are those who say that if they were not sleeping the entire night in their homes, their period is eight days. The donkey drivers, once a week. The camel drivers, once every thirty days. The sailors, once every six months. Sages, their period is once a week. And the way of sages is to have sex from the night of Shabbat to the night of Shabbat.

Se’if 3ג׳

בַּמֶּה דְבָרִים אֲמוּרִים, בְּמִי שֶׁגּוּפוֹ בָּרִיא וְיָכוֹל לְקַיֵּם הָעוֹנָה הַקְּצוּבָה לוֹ, אֲבָל מִי שֶׁאֵינוֹ בָּרִיא אֵינוֹ חַיָּב אֶלָּא לְפִי מַה שֶּׁאוֹמְדִין אוֹתוֹ שֶׁיָּכוֹל לְקַיֵּם:

In regard to what are we talking about, in regards to one whose body is healthy and is able to fulfill the fixed season, but one who is not healthy is only obligated according to what they estimate that he is able to fulfill.

Se’if 5ה׳

יֵשׁ לָאִשָּׁה לְעַכֵּב עַל בַּעֲלָהּ שֶׁלֹּא יֵצֵא לִסְחוֹרָה אֶלָּא לְמָקוֹם קָרוֹב, שֶׁלֹּא יִמָּנַע מֵעוֹנָתָהּ; וְלֹא יֵצֵא אֶלָּא בִּרְשׁוּתָהּ. וַאֲפִלּוּ אִם נוֹתֶנֶת לוֹ רְשׁוּת, אֵין לוֹ לְהִתְאַחֵר, אֶלָּא חֹדֶשׁ בַּחוּץ וְחֹדֶשׁ בְּבֵיתוֹ (טוּר וְהָרֹא"שׁ). וְכֵן יֵשׁ לָהּ לְמָנְעוֹ לָצֵאת מִמְּלָאכָה שֶׁעוֹנָתָהּ קְרוֹבָה לִמְלָאכָה שֶׁעוֹנָתָהּ רְחוֹקָה, כְּגוֹן חַמָּר שֶׁבִּקֵּשׁ לְהֵעָשׂוֹת גַּמָּל, אוֹ גַּמָּל לְהֵעָשׂוֹת מַלָּח. וְתַלְמִידֵי חֲכָמִים יוֹצְאִים לְתַלְמוּד תּוֹרָה שֶׁלֹּא בִּרְשׁוּת נְשׁוֹתֵיהֶם שְׁתַּיִם וְשָׁלשׁ שָׁנִים. וְכֵן טַיָּל שֶׁנַּעֲשָׂה תַּלְמִיד חָכָם, אֵין אִשְׁתּוֹ יְכוֹלָה לְעַכֵּב. וְאִם נוֹתֶנֶת לוֹ רְשׁוּת, תַּלְמִיד חָכָם יָכוֹל לֵילֵךְ בְּכָל מַה שֶּׁתִּתֵּן לוֹ רְשׁוּת (טוּר בְּשֵׁם הָרַאֲבַ"ד):

A woman may forbid [delay] her husband from going for merchant but to a close place, so he won't avoid he period; and he won't leave but [unless] in her permission. And even if she gives him permission, he shouldn't be long, only a month out and a month in his house (Tur & the Rosh) and also she can [has to] forbid him from going from short [close by] period jobs to long [far] period jobs, like a donkey driver wishing to become a camel driver, or camel driver to become a sailor. And scholars [Talmidey Hachamim] leaving for Talmud Torah (even) without their wives permission for two and three years. And [al]so a hiker who became a scholar, his wife can't forbid (him). And if she gives him permission, a scholar can go with however-much she gives him permission (Tur in the name the Ravad)

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Shulchan Aruch, Even HaEzer — Torat Emet 357 edition, via Sefaria — public domain

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