אבן העזר ע״דEven HaEzer 74

Se’if 1א׳

הִדִּירָהּ שֶׁלֹּא תִּתְקַשֵּׁט, וּתְלָאוֹ בְּתַשְׁמִישׁ, שֶׁאָמַר: קוּנָם הֲנָאַת תַּשְׁמִישֵׁךְ עָלַי אִם תִּתְקַשְּׁטִי, תִּתְקַשֵּׁט מִיָּד וְתֵאָסֵר בְּתַשְׁמִישׁ, וִיקַיֵּם שִׁבְעָה יָמִים וְאָז יוֹצִיא וְיִתֵּן כְּתֻבָּה. וְיֵשׁ אוֹמְרִים שֶׁאִם הִדִּירָהּ שֶׁלֹּא תִּתְקַשֵּׁט, בַּעֲנִיּוֹת, שָׁנָה אַחַת יְקַיֵּם, יוֹתֵר מִכֵּן יַתִּיר נִדְרוֹ אוֹ יוֹצִיא וְיִתֵּן כְּתֻבָּה; וּבַעֲשִׁירוֹת, שְׁלשִׁים יוֹם יְקַיֵּם, יוֹתֵר מִכֵּן יַתִּיר אֶת נִדְרוֹ אוֹ יוֹצִיא וְיִתֵּן כְּתֻבָּה:

If he placed her under a vow not to adorn herself, and conditioned it on intercourse, saying, "Konam (a term similar to consecration indicating that an item is forbidden by vow) the pleasure of intercourse with you is forbidden to me if you adorn yourself," she should adorn herself immediately thereby interdicting intercourse, and he maintains the marriage for 7 days, and then divorces her, and must pay the ketubah. Some authorities say that if he placed her under a vow not to adorn herself, poor wives (who may not have other sources of food) are maintained for one year, but more than one year he should either obtain annulment of the vow or divorce with payment of ketubah. With rich women, he should maintain them for 1 month, but more than this he should either obtain annulment of the vow or divorce with payment of ketubah.

Se’if 2ב׳

נָדְרָה הִיא שֶׁלֹּא תִּתְקַשֵּׁט, אוֹ שֶׁאָמְרָה: קוּנָם תַּשְׁמִישְׁךָ עָלַי אִם אֶתְקַשֵּׁט, וְשָׁמַע וְלֹא הֵפֵר לָהּ, יוֹצִיא וְיִתֵּן כְּתֻבָּה. וְעַיֵּן עוֹד חִלּוּקֵי דִּינִים אֵלּוּ בְּיוֹרֶה דֵּעָה סִימָן רל"ה:

[If] she vowed to not wear jewelry, or she says, "A Konam vow upon me [that I can't have benefit from] your relations if I wear jewelry", and he heard and did not annul it, he must divorce her and give her [the value] of her Ketubah . And see further distinctions in these laws in Yoreh Dei'ah Siman 235

Se’if 3ג׳

אָסַר הַבַּעַל כְּלֵי שְׁכֵנָיו עָלָיו, אוֹ כֵּלָיו עַל שְׁכֵנָיו, כְּדֵי שֶׁלֹּא תַּשְׁאִילֵם וְלֹא תִּשְׁאַל מֵהֶן; אוֹ שֶׁאָמְרָה הִיא: קוּנָם תַּשְׁמִישְׁךָ עָלַי אִם אֶשְׁאַל מִשְּׁכֵנַי כֵּלִים אוֹ אַשְׁאִילֵם מִכֵּלַי, וְשָׁמַע וְקִיֵּם לָהּ, יוֹצִיא מִיָּד וְיִתֵּן כְּתֻבָּה. וְאִם אָמַר הוּא: קוּנָם תַּשְׁמִישֵׁךְ עָלַי אִם תִּשְׁאַל מֵהֶם כֵּלִים אוֹ תַּשְׁאִילֵם, אִי אֶפְשָׁר לָהּ שֶׁלֹּא תִּשְׁאַל מֵהֶם וְלֹא תַּשְׁאִילֵם, וַהֲרֵי הִיא נֶאֶסְרָה מִיָּד, וְיוֹצִיא לְאַחַר שִׁבְעָה יָמִים וְיִתֵּן כְּתֻבָּה. וְאִם הִיא אָסְרָה כְּלֵי שְׁכֵנֵיהָ עָלֶיהָ כְּדֵי שֶׁלֹּא תִּשְׁאַל מֵהֶם, אוֹ שֶׁאָסְרָה עַל עַצְמָהּ כְּלֵי בַּעֲלָהּ שֶׁלֹּא תּוּכַל לְהַשְׁאִילֵם, כְּדֵי שֶׁלֹּא יַחֲזִיקוּ לָהֶם טוֹבָה, אוֹ שֶׁנָּדְרָה שֶׁלֹּא לֶאֱרֹג בְּגָדִים נָאִים לְבָנָיו, וְהוּא אֵינוֹ יָכוֹל לְהָפֵר שֶׁאֵין זֶה מִדְּבָרִים שֶׁבֵּינוֹ לְבֵינָהּ, וַאֲסוּרָה לֶאֱרֹג וְלִשְׁאֹל וּלְהַשְׁאִיל כֵּלִים, תֵּצֵא בְּלֹא כְּתֻבָּה, מִפְּנֵי שֶׁמַשִּׂיאָתוֹ שֵׁם רָע בִּשְׁכֵנָיו:

If the husband forbade the neighbors utensils on himself, or his utensils on his neighbors, so that they should not borrow them or he should not lend to them, or if he she said, "A Konam vow upon me [that I can't get benefit from] your relations if I borrow vessels from my neighbors or lend them my vessels", and he heard and established [the vow], he must divorce her and give her [the value of] her Ketubah . And if he said, "A Konam vow upon me [that I can't get benefit from] your relations if you borrow vessels from them or you [lend] to them, [since] it is impossible that she will not borrow from them or [lend] to them, and behold she is forbidden to him immediately, and he must divorce her after seven days and give her [the value of] her Ketuba . And if she forbade the neighbors vessels on herself [through a vow] so that she would not borrow from them, or she forbade her husband's vessels on her so that she would not be able to borrow them, so that she should not increase their good, or she vowed to not weave nice clothing for his children, and he is not able to annul it because this is not a matter between him and her, and [therefore] she is forbidden from weaving and borrowing and lending vessels, she must be divorced without a Ketuba , because she has increased a bad reputation among his neighbors.